5 Wedding Invitation Etiquette Mistakes You Don’t Want to Make

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Wedding invitation etiquette is tricky business. Although “etiquette” is loosely defined these days, there are still a few no-nos.
Here are 5:

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1. Failure to include an RSVP deadline
Of paramount importance, the RSVP deadline lets you plan your reception seating and menu with ease. No waste! Your caterer will know how much food to prepare and you won’t waste time on seating preparations nor money on uneaten food.


2. Including gift registry information on your wedding invitation
Still not cool. Although helpful for your guests to know your likes and wants, it’s still considered taboo wording for the invite. Even though everyone usually brings a gift, it shouldn’t seem expected.

Tip: Add gift registry info to your wedding website.

3. Not giving guests an idea of dress code
Guests want to know how to dress. So, keep this in mind as you personalize your wedding invitation. Express the mood, tone and attire through your design, colors, fonts and wording. If it doesn’t seem obvious that your playfully-worded, coral and celery green color scheme is not indicative of your casual wedding {and you really do want guests to come in flip-flops} then include a simple “casual attire” at the bottom of your invite.

4. Not trying to find out the titles, relationships and names of your guests
Details really do matter! They may not tell you, but guests will indeed appreciate that their hard-earned professional title is included and that their name {and their plus one’s name!} is properly spelled on the envelope. Just do your best!

5. Failure to properly address the wedding invitation envelope
Tricky indeed. A shout-out for singles, plus-ones and adults-only envelope wording. The envelope is your communication tool–it should properly state who is invited and imply who is not.

Specific blog posts dealing with envelope and invite wording:

Do you have an etiquette question you like answered? Tell us in the comments.


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Giveaway Alert: Win Your Thank You Cards

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Have you entered MagnetStreet’s giveaway to win 150 personalized Thank Yous yet? Oh yes, they’re free alright! We’re talking any style, any design–personalized with your photos, colors, fonts–to coordinate with your wedding invitations. So don’t wait another minute…

Enter giveaway on Facebook. Good luck, friends!

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April is National Letter Writing Month. That said, I challenge each of us to take up our pens and write a letter to someone every day for the rest of the month. Getting an actual letter in the mail is the best!

Wording Helps
And if you need some help with wording your Thank You Cards, this article on the etiquette of writing out Thank Yous combined with the 11 tips below should help.

11 Tips on Writing Thank Yous:

  • send a thank you within 2 weeks of receiving the gift
  • be sincere
  • check for spelling and grammar errors
  • both bride and groom should share in writing thank yous
  • order extras!
  • everyone who sends a gift, should receive a thank you
  • mention the gift in your thank you and how you’ll use it
  • use your guest list {with addresses} to keep track of who gave what
  • write out your thank yous in a comfy place
  • invest in a high quality pen
  • remember to include your wedding party, parents, officiant, and even your wedding pros

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Wedding Etiquette: Questions Answered

Categories Wedding Planning

Have a wedding etiquette question you need answered? Wondering about wondering or when to send … We asked our Facebook fans about the dilemmas they were dealing with and what etiquette questions they had. Here are their questions in a Q&A infographic.

Do you have an etiquette question you want answered? Ask away.

Wedding Etiquette Q and A



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Social Etiquette for the Digitally-Inclined

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I wonder what Emily Post {1st edition} would have to say about cell phones in modern weddings. Would she say NO WAY–leave them in your horse carriage out back, or would she take a kinder, gentler approach toward our digital culture? It’s hard to say but one thing is for certain–cell phones are here to stay. And as technologies and media evolve across the platforms, basic social media etiquette should remain the same.

mobile phone use during ceremony

{image: Evermore Photography}

Social etiquette for digitally-inclined wedding guests:

Be respectful:

  1. Mute or better yet, turn off your cell phone during the ceremony.
  2. Honor the wishes of a couple that wants their wedding unplugged or partially unplugged. 
  3. Let the professional photographer take photos. Try not to get in their way as they are the ones being paid to capture the candid moments!

Be kind:

  1. Don’t post photos willy-nilly. If someone doesn’t realize they’re photo is being taken, ask their permission before posting.
  2. Not too pretty! If you’ve captured someone in a less than flattering position, angle or circumstance, don’t share it.


For the digitally-inclined bride and groom: 

Many couples welcome photo swapping and are using paid apps like Wedding Snap to collect photos into online albums or using #hashtags for live Instagramming slide shows. These are wonderful for getting that 3600 view of your wedding.

How about you?
Whether you prefer plugged or unplugged, here are a few ideas to help you get the word out:

  1. An announcement via your officiant. A brief mention before the ceremony starts should suffice.
  2. Add wording to your programs. Be up front about your wishes to be partially or totally unplugged.
  3. Use signage. Place creative signs in strategic areas where you know guests will be: by the guest book, reception tables, bathrooms, etc.

What do you think? Plugged or unplugged?


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