Truly Engaged: Adults-Only Wedding Wording

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I’m getting married! Now what? Truly Engaged is a new blog series written by Rachel, our *newly engaged* staff writer. As she wades her way through the wedding planning process, she’ll be sharing some of the emotions, inspiration, and insight she uncovers along the way

Kid at wedding

 

How do you tell guests that their kids are NOT invited to your wedding?

This no-kid conundrum seemed to be the stickiest wording situation Tim and I came across while making our wedding invitations. I read articles and browsed forums on adult-only weddings, each with their own tips for tackling this tricky subject. However, after reading them I realized something: We aren’t having an adults- only wedding. . . we’re having an “adults-mostly” wedding!

Our exceptions to the no-kids rule:

  • Children under 1 year (nursing infants)
  • All nieces/nephews/cousins (regardless of age)
For us, the exceptions were based on both chronological age and familial hierarchy (e.g., our siblings can bring children, but our cousins and friends cannot). The “kid cutoff” was a tough decision to make, but it was a decision grounded in both practical and personal reasons.

So how do you find the right wording for an “adults mostly” (but not adults-only) wedding?

This word puzzle was perplexing—even for a writer! We knew that we wanted the Invitation wording to be the following:

Courteous
We thought it might sound a little cold or exclusive to write “adults only” directly on the Invitation or RSVP Card (and besides, it wouldn’t apply to our “mostly adults” situation). We wanted to find wording that would be polite, inclusive, and friendly.

Clear
In addition to being courteous, we also wanted to be clear about who is invited (and therefore who is NOT invited). While some wording sounded too blunt, we also felt other wording sounded too subtle. Could we find the sweet spot for this sticky wording situation?

Flexible
To complicate matters, the wording also needed to be flexible in order to accommodate invitees whose children ARE invited to the wedding. We couldn’t use a blanket statement such as “adults only”. We needed to come up with wording that was flexible enough to fit our “adults-mostly” wedding.

 

Wording Ideas for an “Adults-Only” Wedding:

#1: Putting “Adults” on the RSVP Response Line

M_____________________

_____ Adults accepting
_____ Adults declining

 

#2: Putting” Adults” at the Bottom of the Invitation

Adult reception to follow

 

#3: Setting a Limit to Number of Seat Reservations

We have reserved _____ seats in your honor

___ of ___ Attending
___ of ___ Declining

 

Wording Solution for Our “Adults-Mostly” Wedding

Ultimately, our wording solution was this:

  • writing the names of invited guests on the outer envelope
  • emphasizing who was invited on the RSVP Card by writing their names under the subheading “Invited Guests”

RSVP Card for Invitation

 

Although not perfect, the wording satisfied our goal of sounding polite, yet clear–while still allowing for exceptions to the no-kids rule. So how successful was this? Well, we’re still figuring that out! :)

If any RSVP Cards come back with the names of uninvited children, my mom (moms are the best!) helped come up with a general plan of how to approach the guest:

  • Acknowledge their response
  • Address the miscommunication
  • Express desire for their attendance
Example:

Hi Jane,

Thank you for the RSVP! We noticed that you added little Jack to your response. In order to keep the seating capacity below the maximum for our venue, we unfortunately are not able to invite Jack to our wedding. We apologize for the miscommunication! We hope you will still be able to join us on our wedding day. We’d love to have you there!

 

Did you have an “adults-mostly” wedding? I’d love to hear how you handled the wording for your Invitations and RSVP Cards!

 

Rachel for MagnetStreet Weddings

 

 

 

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Stumped for Wedding Wording?

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Let’s hear them! Leave your wedding wording question{s} in the comments and we’ll help you with those wording dilemmas!

 

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Wedding Invitation Wording Ideas

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As you know, wording the wedding invitation no longer follows a linear path–it curves along life’s unique circumstances and family dynamics. And as you’re trying to get the etiquette part right, you’re also trying to infuse your wording with style and personality. Simply put, wording your wedding invitation takes time and consideration.

Be inspired by wording options below:

 

invitation wording ideas

 

Many couples are sharing the cost of the wedding with their parents.

When both sets of parents AND the bride and groom are hosting the wedding:

Along with their parents
Anna Evelyn Johnson
and
John Michael Smith
invite you to celebrate their wedding
on Saturday, the twenty-third of July
two thousand thirteen
at six o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Rochester, New York

 

Here are two examples for when the hosts are divorced and not remarried or divorced and remarried.

When the bride’s parents are divorced and {not remarried}:

Patricia Johnson
and
Robert Johnson
request the pleasure of your company
at the wedding celebration of their daughter
Anna Evelyn
to
John Michael Smith
Friday, twenty-third of July
two thousand thirteen
at six o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Rochester, New York

 

When the bride’s parents are divorced and mom {and stepfather} are hosting:

Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Korman
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage
of Mrs. Korman’s daughter
Anna Johnson
to
John Smith
on Saturday, the seventh of July
two thousand thirteen
at four o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Brighton, New York

 

 

When both sets of parents are divorced and hosting:
The bride’s mother and groom’s parents are divorced {mom is remarried}.

Colleen Johnson
and
Mr. George Smith and Mrs. Janelle Smith Baker
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Anna Evelyn
to
John Michael
on Saturday, the seventh of July
two thousand thirteen
at six o’clock
Christ Lutheran
Brighton, New York

 

When the bride’s parents are hosting but you want to {include the groom’s family}: 

Mr. and Mrs. Harvey Korman
and
Mr. and Mrs. George Smith
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Anna Korman
to
John Smith
on Saturday, the seventh of July
two thousand thirteen
at four o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Brighton, New York

 

Many couples want to honor a deceased parent on their wedding invitation. Take care that the wording is such that it doesn’t look like the deceased person is hosting.
When you want to include a {deceased parent} parent on the invitation:

Mr. John Holmes
husband of the late Margaret Holmes
requests the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Anna Evelyn
to
John Michael Smith
Friday, the seventeenth of July
two thousand and thirteen
at six o’clock
Northbrook Church
Jackson, South Dakota

 

When the {bride’s father is deceased} and the groom’s parents are included on the invitation:

Anna Evelyn Johnson
daughter of
Colleen Johnson and the late Robert Johnson
and
John Michael Smith
son of
Mr. and Mrs. George Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage
Friday, the seventeenth of July
two thousand and thirteen
at six o’clock
Northbrook Church
Jackson, South Dakota

 

 

Do you have a special wording question?

Free Wedding Resources: View all our wedding invitation wording ideas at MagnetStreet Weddings.

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New Wedding Program Designs

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Hello everyone–today we’re thrilled to debut our new Wedding Program designs–available in 6 unique sizes: Rectangle, Square, Tea-length, Gate-fold, Tri-fold and Half-fold. As with all of our wedding stationery, our Wedding Programs are easily personalized–from front to back–and side to side–with your colors, photos, fonts and wording!

What are your thought on wedding programs? Are they necessary? Our thoughts below…

wedding program types

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We think Programs are an important part of your wedding stationery! Here’s why …

First impressions count! More than a pretty accessory, programs are pretty smart tools that help guests feel included and welcomed at the wedding–right from the start. Programs provide an important opportunity to care for your guests in unique, subtle ways. A timely tool, programs set the stage for joining families and friends {probably unfamiliar with each other} and for creating a warm and friendly atmosphere.

Wondering what to put on a wedding program?

8 Content Ideas for Your Wedding Programs

1. Order of events- Guests love to know what’s happening next! Create anticipation as well as keep your guests organized with an order of the service.

2. Wedding party bios- Short and sweet introductions of your party will help create an air of familiarity and warmth, right from the beginning. Plus, guests are curious about these special people in your lives.

3. Fanfare+ Processional/Recessional Music- From Pachelbel’s Canon in D, to J.S. Bach, Vivaldi, The Beatles or Bryan Adams–your guests will appreciate knowing which songs you’ve chosen for those magical moments!

4. Special Readings- If there is a special reading, verse, or poem you’d like guest participation with, have it printed on your programs–so everyone can read along.

5. Acknowledgments- Use your program to give a shout of thanks to those special family/friends who performed a special service i.e. song, reading, playing the piano, etc.

6. Explain a Ritual- Is yours a multi-cultural wedding?Are you celebrating a custom that may be unfamiliar to most? You can put your guests at ease, comfortable and even get them involved with a brief explanation of the ritual.

7. Translations- Are there meaningful words or phrases that need to be translated into another language{s}? Add them to your program.

8. A beautiful keepsake A beautifully-designed program that coordinates with the rest of your wedding stationery, is a treasured keepsake–a souvenir for your guests and a detailed memento for you–of one of the most important days of your life!

Which Program Size is Best?

Choose the program size and type that fits your wedding style and ceremony needs the best. Do you have a lot of information to share–readings, wedding party bios, explanations … roomy program types like the Half-fold, Tri-fold, and Gate-fold Programs may be just perfect for you! Browse the Tea-length, Rectangle, and Square sizes too!

How Are Programs Distributed at the Ceremony?

Programs can be cleverly arranged in pretty containers–ready to for your guests to pick up themselves. They can also be handed out by your ushers seating your guests. Or, they can be sitting pretty in the seating areas–just waiting for your guests to sit down. It’s your choice!

What are your thoughts on Wedding Programs?

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