Top 5 Questions: Wedding Invitation Etiquette

Sep 7 2011

Modern weddings enjoy lots and lots of freedom these days- no longer adhering to the hard and fast rules of days gone by. While often told by older generations, many couples still like to know basic etiquette regarding their wedding stationery. Here are 5 of the most popular etiquette topics that we get and that every couple should be aware of- before they push their envelopes.

Flat Tea Length Wedding Invitation

{Soft & Sweet– Tea Length Wedding Invitation}

1. What is the basic wording that my invitation must have?
Every invitation must have: who {is hosting} and who {getting married} when {time & date} where {ceremony location}. Traditionally, if a couple marries in a house of worship, wording reads: “request the honor {honour} and “favor {favour} of a reply” on the RSVP card. Words, dates and numbers are typically spelled out, and the only abbreviations are Mr. and Mrs. Punctuation is typically found only in the time, date or in the location.


Mr. and Mrs. Carl Frank Johnson
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Anna Evelyn
Mr. Jacob Michael Lund
Saturday, the twenty-third of July
two thousand twelve
at five o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Osceola, Wisconsin

less formal:

Mr. and Mrs. Carl Frank Johnson
invite you to celebrate
the marriage of their daughter
Anna Evelyn
Jacob Michael Lund
Saturday, the twenty-third of July
two thousand twelve
at five o’clock
Grace Fellowship Church
Osceola, Wisconsin

2. Can I print “No Children” on my wedding invitations?
No. Wording like this is negative and has the potential to offend. The best way to communicate your wishes for an “adult only” event is by properly addressing your invitation envelope{s} to those who are specifically invited. Read more about using double envelopes.

3. Can I include my registry or gift information on my invitations?
No. Even though most guests bring gifts, it is considered poor etiquette to include that on your invitation- even if the gifts are intended for charity. Have your family and wedding party spread the word rather than have gift or registry info printed on your invites.

4. Should I take the time to find out the titles, relationships and names of all my guests?
Yes! Details matter! When an envelope arrives properly addressed and correctly spelled, it speaks volumes about your attention to detail. Not only that, it’s thoughtful and respectful to try to include the professional titles and learn the names of all your guests.

5. Can I print out labels to address my wedding invitations?
No. While it is tempting, the handwritten invite lends a special touch and is still considered proper etiquette. I’d recommend  inviting 2 of your best friends over {who have excellent handwriting} for a few hours of addressing and stuffing envelopes. It’s a great bonding time- I promise!

What are your thoughts on etiquette? Old fashioned or something to pay attention to?

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2 thoughts on “Top 5 Questions: Wedding Invitation Etiquette

  1. So what if I don’t want to have my parents “request the honour of ones presence”…that’s improper etiquette? Nothing against my parents as I love them both dearly, but my wedding is all me and my fiance and I don’t see the need to put anyone elses name on the invitation… thoughts?

  2. Hey Susie-
    Great question! Traditional etiquette has always suggested listing the “hosts” {whomever is “paying” for the wedding} on the invite. But, more & more couples are paying for their own wedding & naming only themselves on the invite. It really is your wedding your way and if you don’t want to list your parents on the invite, that’s absolutely up to you. Have you seen our resource section for alternative wording of the invites? Here it is…

    Hope this helps Susie! Let me know if you have more questions.

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