Asking For Cash Instead Of Wedding Gifts

Examples Of How To Ask For A Cash Wedding Gift

  1. Because we are saving for (fill in the blank), we would appreciate cash donations in lieu of gifts. Thank you very much!
  2. We ask only of your love and presence but if a present is your desire, we would be honored with a cash gift to help us save for our new home! Much love and thanks!
  3. We require only your presence but if you were thinking of giving a gift, we would greatly appreciate a gift of cash to help us save for (gift idea). Thank you kindly!
  4. If you were thinking of giving a gift, we would appreciate a gift of cash to help us save for our new home.
  5. In lieu of gifts, we would greatly appreciate cash donations to help us save (for our new home).

asking for cash gifts

Ugh. awkward subject, isn't it? 

As uncomfortable as this idea may be, asking for cash instead of wedding gifts is a growing trend. Blame the economy. Or, it's the simple fact that more couples are paying for their own weddings. And, while it's true that most guests bring gifts, do we have the right to assume this of them?

On the other hand, while asking for cash instead of gifts may seem like it will annoy your guests ... there is a lot to be said for an honest straight-forward approach. This is especially true, if this is what family and friends might expect. Asking for money will always be awkward. Will your guests wonder, "how much is enough?"

If you're going to ask for cash gifts, we don't suggest mentioning it on the invitation. Instead, add it to your wedding website. Just be sure to include the like to your site on an enclosure card with your invitation

Be specific about how you will use the cash. This will help guests feel more connected and better about giving cash instead of a piece of china or blender!



If you have to ask for cash, stating that it would be for something (like a home) would make me more comfortable. Otherwise I'd reduce the amount I was thinking of giving. However, as a guest I would rather bring SOMETHING for you to "remember me by" cash doesn't do this at all. Even if its a frying pan, you could think of me when you made eggs in the morning. With all the registries out there, why would you have to ask for cash anyway?

I don't think it's very classy to ask (for gifts or for money!). If I were you I wouldn't ask. I would just wait for guests to ask about the registry and then explain you would prefer cash.

It didn't feel right to out right as for money, but the way you have presented it makes it less tacky and acceptable in my opinion. It's the truth and said properly. For Hmong weddings people are assuming you need money to start your life together anyways, so we don't do registries and most people bring money. Well money and pillows and blankets :-)

This is so foreign to me to ask for cash right up front. I do see many reasons for it like the couple each have an established household or they live together so they already have the items. Still, it seems weird.

I think lots of couples nowadays would prefer cash to traditional wedding gifts however I think couples need to be aware that there are still rules to etiquette. I have lived with my fiance for 6 years now and we have a house full of appliances already. I really don't need anything but a down-payment for a house. But I know many of our guests are very traditional and I do not want to offend them with a bid for cash. I think you need to know your audience and gauge their reaction before you can make the decision, but generally my opinion is to go the traditional route and register - you can always return for something at a later date.

I have lived in my own home for 7 years, and my fiance is moving in with me. There are certain things we don't need, but I am excited to registe and get new things. I could not afford to but expensive quality items myself, and I am using the registry as an opportunity to replace old items, and allow my fiance to have new things to use too. Many people give cash at the wedding, but I feel like to ask for cash at a shower is rude. And there will be old fashioned people who still show up with a toaster or blender or picture frame you don't need or want. At least a registry directs people to what you DO want. If you have a small registry, you will get gift cards or cash too.

We were married in the Philippines and didn't want to worry about baggage allowances being over. We stated that: "Due to international baggage allowances, we only request your presence as the most important gift. However, if you insist on giving a gift, we will be having the traditional dance should you desire to participate.

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