Wedding Planning Advice: Real Brides

Mar 3 2011

I think the best advice … comes from real brides. Brides who have planned, got married and then had time to reflect about their day. Read through the advice of the following 13 brides I interviewed…

Along with their experiences, there is a common thread of wisdom that runs through each. See if you can pick it out…

from Brynnen on their Bahaman destination wedding

My best advice for destination wedding brides (if you are slightly type A like me), is to send your wedding coordinator pictures of what you want.  I sent our coordinator pictures of the cake, the flowers, the decor and that was really helpful for her to see our vision.  Since we were not able to be there to see things in person and it may be hard for a coordinator to anticipate a bride’s vision–the more detail you give the planner, the better.  My other suggestion (if it is in your budget) is to ensure you have a photographer you trust. We were able to have our good friends and phenomenal photographers Melissa & Adam Burkholder {} photograph the wedding. Melissa has an amazing eye and was able to capture so many wonderful moments.

from Stephanie on their pretty lilac and silver color scheme

best wedding day advice received If something goes wrong on your wedding day don’t stress out. Let it be. It will either make for a unique aspect to your wedding or probably only be noticed by yourself.
advice she wished she would have taken Hire someone to make or put together your favors.
Stephanie’s wedding day advice… Let someone handle the details come the wedding day. You don’t want someone asking you 10 times “Do you want the candles on the tables or where to put your favors?” Someone should take over the plans for the day just so you can enjoy the day.

from Boram on their Portland wedding featuring a Korean gift ceremony

Advice she wished she would have taken Don’t forget to eat! We got to eat a little bit, but not enough. Make sure you get to taste the wine and beer you picked out, the entree, and of course, your wedding cake! And, make sure your bridal party eats, too. The majority of my bridal party didn’t get to try the wedding cake.
best wedding planning advice: “Just have fun! It’s going to go by fast, so savor every moment of your wedding day”

from Nalie on their spring peacock-themed wedding

Planning advice: Delegate! Don’t try to do everything yourself. Also, get a really great and dependable personal attendant. Mine was invaluable in helping with everything (and everyone) and keeping me looking good for all the flashing cameras!

from Anna on their Minnesota wedding with horse stable photos

wedding planning advice
“I got engaged in April and married in September. You CAN planning a wedding in under 5 months. No problem!”

  • Use “The Knot” to help you stay on track of what needs to be done when. This was my life saver.
  • Write everything down in 1 notebook and keep it with you 24/7
  • Just pick one! Stressing over a bunch of wedding dresses, bridesmaid dresses or food is not worth it. Look at a few and make your choice.
  • If there are small details you REALLY want, make it happen. You get one day, just make sure to plan ahead.
  • Put together an itinerary for your wedding party, photographers, florist, videographer, reception site, host couples, everyone/anyone that has a specific assignment. This way they are aware of their expectations for the big day.

from Julie on their Greek Orthodox wedding

Savvy planning advice
Spread your time out as best you can the week of your wedding. We did our rehearsal dinner on Friday and Wedding on Sunday. It was great to have that one day to try to relax and spend time with out of town guests.

from Crystal on their traditional wedding with black, white & red accents

Advice she’s glad she took I was so overwhelmed towards the last few weeks before the wedding. Several people told me to take in every moment of our wedding day, to soak it in and embrace it. And I am so happy I did! If I had worried about other unimportant factors, I would have missed the little things that made my wedding day so specia
Advice she wished she took I really tried to listen to all of the advice I received. I had several aunts and friends who shared their knowledge on love and marriage. The wedding was truly my vision as well as the ceremony. I tried to incorporate some of my Catholic faith in the ceremony and some of my husband’s Baptist traditions as well. I believe the wedding was about us and that was important.
Advice she’d like to give Each and every couple is different as each and every wedding is unique. Make your wedding about you and your spouse!

from Aarti on their traditional Hindu wedding

Best wedding day advice Don’t stress — When I was deep in planning, super stressed about the littlest thing gone wrong and a serious control freak, I tried to always remember what a fantastic support system I have — my husband and wedding planner were both great in the whole planning process! And, all my friends and family lent a heavy hand.
Advice she wished she would have taken Enjoy every minute. This kind of goes back to the stress part I suppose, but there were many times when I was so focused on the little details of the party. But in the last month, the excitement really started to set in, and I didn’t want to stress – Then I would take a step back and revel in the fact that I was getting married! And I just wanted to spend the time with friends and family that flew in, and attended our special day.

from Tanya on their outdoor wedding in Canada

The best wedding day advice they received was to relax~ only the bride and groom notice when a detail is forgotten or misplaced…. It was so true….we were the only ones to notice.”

from LeAnn on their September wedding

Advice she’s glad she took – Take moments to just stop what I am doing … to look around and to adsorb everything. The day goes by so quickly and this advice helped me enjoy every point of the day~ from waking up at 6:30am to getting ready…  to leaving the reception at the end of the night … to starting our honeymoon!
Advice she wished she took – Eat early in the day as soon as you get up because if you don’t, things get busy and you forget to eat!!
Advice you’d like to give – The same advice I took.  Take time to breath and adsorb the moments of the day!!  This helps you relax and not regret wishing you had “more time”.
Best part of the whole wedding day – Exchanging vows and taking communion together.  We wrote our own vows, and those moments reminded why we made the decision to unite in marriage in front of our friends and family and before God.

from Cyndy on their outdoor California wedding

Advice she’s glad she took To not sweat the details because on the whole, the day was amazing and I married my best friend!
Advice she wished she took To have a videographer – no matter how much I tried to stop and look around, it still went by too fast and there are some moments that are just a blur!
wedding planning advice To stop and look around as much as possible. To really take in the feeling of the day, because the details will fade, but that feeling will linger on!

from Angela on their Minnesota tropical wedding in November

Advice she’s glad she took: Don’t sweat the small stuff! Your guests won’t know the things that didn’t get done or notice that your table runners aren’t all identical or if your votive holders are different sizes or if your singer isn’t at rehearsal and you have to wing it for the ceremony! The day after your wedding most of the guests won’t remember your centerpieces that you worked so hard on, but plan a fun, love-filled day and your guests will remember your wedding forever!
Advice she wished she took Don’t try to please everyone. I am a people-pleaser so this was very hard for me! Even at my reception I wanted to make sure everyone was enjoying themselves. I wish I could have let that go a little and realized that people will make their own fun. There was music and drinks so people were going to have fun without me worrying about it!

From Kristen about their vineyard wedding

Best wedding day advice: RELAX! If you don’t relax, you don’t enjoy your day, and I definitely followed that and had the best day. The other one is to get a wedding planner. They are God’s gift to brides.
Advice she wished she took: I wish I had taken a list of poses I wanted. There were some key shots that were missed, but it was due to the hustle and bustle.

What wisdom did you take away from these brides?


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4 thoughts on “Wedding Planning Advice: Real Brides

  1. Kristen, I could not agree with you more about relaxing. People don’t realize that the key to having fun is relaxing, if you are stressed out then everyone around you will be stressed and it then becomes a domino effect. Planners are good too. 😉

  2. Really useful things you wrote in here. There are so many things that need taking care of when planning your wedding…it is almost impossible not to leave something out.

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